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September 23, 2016
Relationship Goals : Raising Children – Effects of Positive Parenting Styles
In raising children, setting up the Feasible, Realistic yet the most successful relationship Goals is inevitable to shape up the young minds. What could be the best parental advice that a couple can get .? What are the different parenting styles and What is Positive Parenting .? How to be a successful parent .? How to discipline your mischievous child .? are a few famous queries among the enthusiastic modern parents who lack the ground reality in one way or another.
Modern parents worry for things that are not to be worried at all. They fall prey for improbable issues. In the same time, Modern parenting Styles fail to notice the Issues that are significant.
‘Not To Worry’ List in Raising Children:
A stranger will kidnap your child on the street and harm or kill him/her.
Your child will touch a surface that hasn’t been sterilized today and succumb to some terrible disease.
Terrorism or Anti Socialsor Natural Calamities will somehow kill your child.
‘To Worry’ List in Raising Children:
Statistically, young children spend almost 5 hours in a day glued by their LBB in front of any Visual Medium. It can be a computer or a TV or a Smart Phone .. etc
Almost 75% of our Modern day Kids have no idea what a Healthy Physical activity would look like. Whose fault is it .? Whose responsibility is that to advise them of any kind of physical work out an hour a day, that induce high sweating and pulse.
More than 50% of children fail to consume the prescribed quantities of vegetables and fruits. The sad truth is that they are running on high-calorific foods and hence lack in many essential nutrients sourced from Vegetables and fruits.
The renowned fact is that by the time someone gets killed by terrorism, hundreds get killed by Diabetes. Better to lead a contended life of what you have. Or, at least try to worry for those things that really matter and have some better frequency of occurrence.
“Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.”
Supply your kids with abundant resources irrespective of it’s relevance and necessity is a kind of Bad Parenting Style. You don’t teach anything but force feed your kids. Keeping your kid contended is good, but make them aware of things is essential.
Emotional intelligence in Raising Children
Emotional intelligence is all about being aware of and manage your own emotions and in the same time, being sensitive to the emotions of people around you.
Intellectual knowledge is acquired, but emotional intelligence comes only via practice. Its an essential part of one’s character and keep one going in odds of their life.
Kids go busy by means of home work, extracurricular activities and both by social media and technology. Due to which teaching emotions intelligence often a challenge for parents in raising children.
Academic achievements really matters. But that should not be a obstacle for kids who develop their emotional intelligence in a day to day basis.
Never be a Neglectful Parent or a Over Protective parent – be a Sensitive Parent in raising children.
Best Parenting style asses how your child deals with tricky situations and help them evolve emotionally.
This is the reverse of what we saw above – Keeping the child engaged in some kind of task all the time. Let the kid raise in its own towards developing imagination, ingenuity and character.
Modern day Parenting styles go over enthusiastic at times and give no room of disappointment for their child. The child is given no chance to deal with disappointment which often proves to be a critical skill to lead a better life.
Another poor parenting style is inflated praising. Praising that was exaggerated beyond a limit fails to solve its purpose. Over praising make kids too fragile and they are no way ready for criticism. This behavior leads to a state where a normal praising word sounds unpleasant to the kid
Often parents tend to order their Kids of what to do and what not to. This is absolutely alright if backed up with a reasoning or a rationale for that. The result is kids loosing self confidence and never ready to attempt something new. They go stereotyped by the default ways instructed to them. The Ideal Parenting Style should have reasoning for every instruction given, so that the kid can develop its own reasoning while trying something new.